The experience of Unhappiness is linked to a belief in “not having what we need.” And not having what we need comes from either not Asking for it or from Resisting it being given to us (in other words, not receiving it). When we’ve lived a pattern of Not Having, it takes courage to be New and to choose to Ask and Receive. Let go of the fear of Asking for what is needed and the the fear of allowing yourself to Receive it (and to receive Good and to receive God’s Love). Realize you are worth Loving and that you deserve every bit of God’s Love, and Good, and Grace, and true Happiness.
In every moment we have free will and the choice of who and how we will Be. We can either choose to be Fear, or we can choose to be Love. And what we choose to be is Reflected in (and as) our experience of Life. Are you choosing to be Love and all that it is, or are you choosing to be Fear? Choose to live Life as one of the many expressions of Love – joy, happiness, support, fun, acceptance, achievement, etc. – instead of living Life as one of the many expressions of Fear – pain, unhappiness, worry, defeat, victim, “less than,” not good enough, not worth having, undeserving, etc. Simply know it in your Heart. Exhale. And Ask to be Love. Ask for “being Love.”
Whether we’re letting go of old habits, starting New habits or transforming our lives with New Programming, remember that we are walking on New legs. It’s okay to take it slow. It’s okay to be Gentle with yourself.
When we begin to take an inventory of the areas in our Life we are looking to make New, it can sometimes get a little overwhelming and we may not know where to start. In these instances it is helpful to make a list of what needs cleaning up in our world and then categorize this list by “most crucial,” “somewhat crucial,” and “least crucial.” This frees us to focus on just the most crucial matters in this moment, and where we need to, Ask God for help and to show us the way.
Accept your past and know that you are not that person anymore. Let yourself be New. Let it all go and start again in this moment.
Certain things in Life are worth the investment of our time. Let go of the “quick fix” mentality. Some things take time to build. Start the journey.
We can not change who we were, but we can change who we are now and therefore who we will become. It can be a mental and emotional habit to hold on to “who and how we were” or “how it’s always been,” and it leads to believing ourselves to be stuck in a Life that we feel powerless to change. But this is only because our thoughts about Life and ourselves are stuck in and attached to the past, which means we are literally “living in the past.” But by realizing the past is just history and no longer matters, like a collection of old movies we are no longer interested in or choose to watch, we free ourselves from what has been and are able bring our Awareness to the present moment where we are truly empowered to be New and create real change.
Because there are no mistakes, and all happens as it needs to, it’s important that we open ourselves to letting go of any feelings we have of being a failure. All “mistakes” are simply opportunities for letting go – of situations that did not turn out as we planned, of being not perfect, and of our addiction to judgment (of ourselves for our “mistakes” and imperfection, and of others for theirs). There is no failure when we are willing to open ourselves to Seeing the Truth in all situations and to Receiving all things with God’s Wisdom and Acceptance.
The key to not being afraid of making mistakes is in trusting that for every Wrong there is a Right, and for every screw up there is a Solution. This is the way God works, and when we’re living connected to Fear instead of living connected to God, it can be easy to forget and lose sight of this.
The fear of making mistakes keeps us from being able to relax and let go and truly Live. But underneath it all, what we’re really afraid of is being unable to fix our mistakes.